Child of Mine: Feeding with Love and Good Sense, Revised and Updated Edition

Satter's book provides a wonderful foundation for feeding your child over a lifetime. While it is true that you can cherry pick bits out of it which on the face value of individual sound bites might make no sense, when taken as a whole, it is a REALLY great book to read as a parent or child care provider. For instance, she says somewhere in the book, that if your young child wants butter, let them eat it to their hearts content. You might say, "Say what?" Here's the thing, if you do let your kid eat the butter to their heart's content what do you think will happen? I can almost guarantee you that at some point (before the kid is anywhere near developing coronary heart disease), the kid will mentally say, "enough of that" and move on to something else. (Just be prepared that it might take a few days, but it will happen.) Then the butter is no longer some "special" food worthy of being desired among all else. (Think about the last time you truly gorged on something. How do you feel about that food now? I can barely look at shrimp cocktail after one particular incident years ago.) Same goes with dessert or anything else. BUT here's the key things to remember, Ms. Satter is advocating for parents to provide consistent HIGHLY NUTRITIOUS meals that are PALATABLE at consistent and reliable times. When you are serving the OCCASIONAL ice cream, cookies, cake (whatever), you are also serving an ARRAY of vegetables, fruits, whole grains, lean meats, etc. which you allow your child to CHOOSE from -- everything becomes ordinary and welcomed. [BTW: I do agree with one reviewer who said that our culture serves dessert last, so probably that should be held until after the main meal is over. I would just treat it as another course, like appetizers get served first. This isn't to make it special or not, just keep some order to it all, as that's how others in our culture do it. And frankly you want a well adapted, not weird kid.] Junkier foods are held to a smaller proportion of the offering. And you are not offering extremely BLAND tasting foods -- unless that's just how your family likes everything. The non-junk should taste as good (or perhaps better) than the junk. This means, for some, learn some food procurement and cooking techniques to enhance your cooking, if necessary. Vegetables/fruits should be fresh, ripe and attractive. Seasonings, including some oils and butter possibly, should be incorporated in your food. If you don't know how to do these things, try youtube, there are lots of videos out there. She just is stressing that the adult caregiver is reliable one for providing good food at certain times, but you should never FORCE the child to eat it. Otherwise, you set up unhealthy power struggles. Sitting at the table together and eating healthy meals you can all eat together will actually help everyone. Often when food is sitting in front of you, you will eventually eat it, even when you might otherwise not have an interest. Human food acceptance increases with exposure to foods. Sometimes, a person has to be exposed to a food 9-11 times before they start to develop any time acceptance for it -- even adults. So, offering a wide variety of foods (presented in portioned sizes that your child can take) will eventually lead to your child (and perhaps you) to eating more variety and hopefully healthier foods. When she wrote this book, the science was not out to support her theories. This was written after she had spent many years as a parent and dietitian. She went back to school to learn psychology and continued helping people with family eating dynamics. So in many respects she was ahead of the "science" -- as studies are often short-term with a limited amount of participants. She had lived this stuff, lectured and taught it for MANY years BEFORE she wrote the book. So, it seems that science only caught up with her afterwards. Part of me wanted to give this book four stars due to the fact that if you have never tried this method, have no nutrition background or don't have access to her live (or possibly her old videos), on the first reading it may be difficult to understand how or why this works. However, let the words marinate with you (LOL), then read it again if you like. Try it out slowly with an open mind. You might find your pickiest eater will turn around and you and the whole family (or organization) will benefit. Fearless Feeding by Jill Castle is an excellent companion read to this book. It picks up where Ellyn Satter leaves off for older kids. It also goes into some detail about diet that Satter did not delve into with food specifics.(Note: I did not like the Kindle edition, which I purchased in 2014, as there are no real page numbers and scrolling was awkward. This made it difficult to discuss this book with others. I read it as a parent and for a class.)

Our 2.5 year old was refusing foods, throwing things from his high chair, and basically making mealtimes a big fight every time. Someone recommended this book, I put just a few things in practice, and voila! The throwing behavior stopped! Over time he started to try new foods and now is a good eater, just 6 months later. I wish I had bought this book when he was born, because I think a lot of bad habits started early during bottle feeding, introducing new solids etc. What a great book, and I like that it is full of scientific evidence and field research, not just "I'm a parent and here are my thoughts on food".What we did with our 2.5 year old was simple. If he threw the food, we took his meal away and let him down from the high chair. Then no food till the next snack/meal. The idea was that he would learn to sit and feed himself, and learn that sitting at dinner with us is a privilege, and if he didn't eat, he'd be a little hungry (but not starving of course, as the next snack/meal was a mere few hours away). Dinner time was hard because bedtime comes next, and we were worried that he'd wake at night hungry. It didn't happen! We offered milk before bed and he drank a lot, and then slept till morning, was hungry for breakfast, and ate well. When I offered new food I put it next to him, didn't press him, and kept offering it to him, and he did exactly the author said. He looked at it, then next time he'd touch it, then he'd put it in his mouth, make a face, and take it out, then next time he'd eat a little, etc. Over time he accepted it. In the past if he wouldn't eat it I'd never offer it again, thinking he didn't like it. He's now almost 3 and a good eater.

I’ve given this book a lot of thought since I began reading it about 1.5 years ago. It’s very helpful for understanding a healthy approach to feeding your children in a “traditional” sense. I have considered these guidelines in forming a basic understanding of relationships with food and how to help your children with this. However, after careful thought and observation, I don’t think it adequately addresses eating in our modern culture, which continues to change at a rapid pace. The recommendations in this book are more appropriate for addressing food as a neutral stimulus, when in fact, food is not a neutral stimulus in our culture. It is exciting, enticing, and ever-present. It is also more loaded with junk than ever before. While I have considered overlooking this reality in my approach to feeding my kids, as the author suggests maintaining a neutral stance to foods of all kinds, I have decided not to adopt this approach. The author’s guidance was developed during a time (first publication in 1983) when low-fat foods were all the rage and I can see how this informed her recommendations. However, we have since learned that this dietary approach is not healthy or realistic and that sugars are more readily responsible for current health problems. In addition, the low-fat diet does put people at greater risk for binge eating. I plan to limit my kids’ access to sugars and to educate them about this rather than maintain a neutral stance. I also plan to maintain fairly easy access to healthy foods rather than scheduling snack times, as I believe this is more realistic as they set out on their own in today’s day and age when food is available around every corner. I wish diets in our culture were as simple as they were in the early eighties when this book first came out.

I was recommended this book by a fellow twin mum. My son (then 2 years old) was going through a difficult patch with eating and I was desperate for some advice. The book mainly gives info for newborns up to the toddler years, the focus being on babies rather than toddlers. While the author gives some good advice on eating habits and attitudes I found this book about a year too late and a lot I already knew or was just not relevant anymore. Here's a summary of the chapters:Chapter 1 - Feeding is parentingChapter 2 - Your kid knows how to eat & growChapter 3 - Your feeding decision: breastfeeding or formula-feedingChapter 4 - Understanding your newbornChapter 5 - Breastfeeding your babyChapter 6 - Formula-feeding your babyChapter 7 - Feeding your older baby: 6-12 monthsChapter 8 - Feeding your toddler: 12-36 monthsChapter 9 - Feeding your preschooler: 3-5 yearsAlso included are appendixes with some recipes, growth charts, food safety, vitamin guides, etc.I would recommend this book for mothers are are either pregnant and/or have just had a baby and need some guidance.

Every first time parent should read this, at least while weaning the child. I got to know about this later than I would have hoped for. Its reassuring, competent and exhaustive explanations are a blessed guide through a natural phase (that of weaning and passing to solid food), that can however become quite challenging. Every parent should read it.

Very informative

As expected.

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