Love Must Be Tough: New Hope for Families in Crisis

I was going through a terrible time in my marriage and my wife had left me and I did not know what to do. My wife said that she did not love me anymore and she did not think she could ever love me again. I was desperate and had tried everything imaginable to save my marriage. I read every e-book online and spent lots of money on so-called experts and prayed and pleaded with God to do anything to save my marriage. Then, as a last ditch effort, I purchased a used copy of this nearly 20-year-old book. After reading this book and applying the advice given by Dr. James Dobson, my marriage turned around completely. Within a week of reading this book my wife had moved back with me and we were once again working on the marriage. It is a practical and effective book with tried and true wisdom that goes to the heart of the matter with your marriage. If you feel like you have tried everything or even if you have not tried everything but are desperate to save your marriage, do not waste one more moment and buy this book. I have absolutely no financial incentive to encourage you to buy this book. I do not know the author personally or otherwise and my only interest is passing along the great benefit I have received in reading this book. The advice will be counter-intuitive to what you may be thinking but trust the advice and apply it in your marriage and watch as things begin to change. I was amazed at how quickly I started to see results. When I first got the book I was a little skeptical because it was published nearly 20 years ago and I doubted whether or not it would be relevant. Dr. James Dobson is not perfect and I do not agree with all of his political/religious views on everything, but with respect to marriage and the advice he gives on the marriage relationship in this book, I could not endorse his views more. The reason it is so effective is because it gives the "desperate" spouse confidence and self-respect once again. It helps you get your head on straight and put things in perspective. Without confidence and respect for yourself, your spouse will not want to come back. Dr. Dobson walks you through the steps necessary to get your head on straight and give you the strength to handle whatever may come your way. That is the only way to get a spouse back who has lost respect for you and does not love you anymore. The book is cheap and the risk is low and you owe it to yourself and to your marriage to give it a try. Dr. Dobson does not guarantee results and I am not trying to offer any guarantee either. I can only tell you my experience with this book and as I write this, my wife is happily sleeping next to me on our bed. A few months ago I never would have imagined my wife and I would be together again but this book showed me a way to regain control of my life and my mind and my wife responded and we are now together. I pray that you find what you are looking for and I strongly believe that this book can be a catalyst towards enacting a positive change in your life and in your marriage.

If you have ever had a broken relationship or a broken heart this book is for you. Dr. Dobson shares true to heart wisdom that will help you understand and heal from brokenness. Highly recommend this book!

When we were both teenagers, I remember my friend Vanessa used to tell me why she had a lot of boyfriends. It was because she hated the fact that after a few dates they would fall in love with her, and begin the "clingy" process of being: overprotective, jealous, whinny, too affectionate, and include 24/7 phone calls (in those days....now it would probably be texts). She hated the fact that they were no longer a "challenge", and would then break up with them. Everyone loves the "popular" uninterested guy, or girl until they become that "clingy" person Vanessa would describe to me. That is one of the main ideas I took from reading this book. It was awesome advise I have never heard before, but makes so much sense. Who does the unfaithful spouse go after? The sexy, independent guy/girl that plays hard to get, or the one calling him/her every ten seconds wanting attention (you know like "Fatal Attraction")? This book is just so clear. In speaking to my teenage daughter about boys I made this point plain and simple, as well: How do dogs act when they want your attention? They go crazy wagging their tail running all over the place, some jump on you, some scratch doors, windows, or any type of wall that gets in the way of you and them, some whimper, howl, or bark when they CAN'T get your attention, etc.. I said, "When you find yourself doing any of these characteristics, you have lost respect for yourself, and everything that comes with that action, including humiliating yourself." Who is attracted to that? Nope, not even the spouse that promised to be with you for the rest of his/her life. So, if you want more on this subject, definately buy this book. (Again, this is what I took out of the book).

This is a book for people who are not sure where the boundaries are when a loved one is acting out or not living up to family standards. You don’t have to put up with foolishness or selfishness, and in this book you will understand why and how to draw your boundaries with love, but also with firmness. It’s a great book.

I had read this many years ago in deciding with God and my Christian counselor as to what to do in my marriage that was not going well for years. This book was so understanding, and had examples that are down to earth, that I didn't feel alone. James Dobson is an excellent Christian man and writer, I'm thankful that he has written so many good books on family, relationships, etc for our world really needs good truth. I got this book for a friend of mine who was struggling. My friend appreciated it. Karen

Very helpful for families.

I bought this as a gift

This book had many descriptions of things I have done incorrectly in my life. I am a terrible enabler and this book hit the nail on my head! Much of what is written echoes what my therapist has been telling me for the past 10 years! I have found this book very useful as a resource for me.

Such a good book! Even for a single adult. Helps me relate to my family and students.

I have given away 20 plus copies of this to the partner who didn't want the bust up. It is amazing psychology of how to fight the bust up - but in understanding what is happening, you will become so strong you may wish to chuck the partner out instead. Life changing. You can ignore the Christian references if that is not your thing. It is short readable and clarifies the mess. Please read and buy for your friends.

What a book, if you find yourself in on of those tough places with your spouse or partner I have found this book an invaluable resource to keep me going and to keep HOPE alive in my life.

Excellent book!

If you wanna bring the kids up well look no further than that Dr James Dobson. His books are full of practical advice and work tested in the lives of ordinary people.