Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well

This book is great for helping evaluate yourself and your perspective on your interactions with others. I had to read this for graduate school, and it helped a lot in looking inward and trying to improve. It came exactly as listed. Would recommend reading this book!

I absolutely love this book. Yes... I mean it in the present. I keep it on my desk to reread portions every week because it is that good a book. I have heard it read to me by the authors no less than 3 times and reread it in written form twice. Why you may wonder? It is an utter delight (and so uncommon) to hear someone talk of communication as a responsibility of all parties involved. Those that receive feedback must have a framework to interpret feedback given (no matter whether it is done well or poorly by the provider) and this book aids the reader in identifying their own assumptions leading into a review process. It takes some of the pressure off both sides of the equation. For the receiver of feedback, embracing the realism and hope that this book projects from cover to cover is LIFE CHANGING. I am speaking from personal experience as this book changed my life. This book's effect was not only in my giving and receiving professional feedback but also for my personal life. As an example, I have lost 65 lbs when I applied lessons from this text to my personal life. I personally enjoyed the audio book version even more as the authors offer through their tone and speech even greater insight. I bought the written version to review favorite passages. This book (in audio form) after a particularly difficult feedback session that could have destroyed my sense of self and professionalism, probably saved my life. It gave me a lens to interpret what had happened. This book offered a framework to understand why the feedback was so painful and, at the same time, so UTTERLY USELESS despite the givers' best intent. Because of the authority with which these authors write, I was able to take back the power to make sense of the feedback that was offered as I lost my job as a spiritual leader. The feedback didn't have to be what others said should be, think an indictment of personal and professional worthlessness. I was no longer a limited to what they insisted it should be (because that is what they wanted it to be) but instead given the power to use what was offered in helpful ways based on the reframing this book provided. I was able to develop and be a better human instead of being destroyed by the feedback I had received. To the authors... Thank you Stone and Heen... please know that you changed my life.

A helpful book that will be a good reference in the future as well.

I first checked this book out as an audiobook from my local library. After listening to it, I decided I needed a print copy to read, study, and highlight. Then I decided I also wanted a copy of the audiobook to have to listen to with my wife. So many good principles taught that everyone needs for productive conversations and relationships. The trick now is becoming familiar enough with them that it becomes second nature to actually apply them in every day life. Two other good companion books to this one are “The Anatomy of Peace” (or any of the publications of the Arbinger Institute, and “Never Split the Difference.”

I really enjoyed reading this book. I found the information about specific types of feedback particularly valuable. It has helped me become a better leader has had profound impacts and how I answer a simple question like, what did you think about that meeting? Having a framework I can refer to has been incredible. Thank you.

This book is FULL of great information, helpful examples, humor, and practical things to try. The authors obviously have done their research and learned from their experiences. I'm using this information to build out a course on receiving and giving feedback. It's just one of my resources, but page for page it has more value than some of the other books and articles. I have 5 books on feedback and have read too many HBR.org and MindTools.com articles to count. All of the other books were good too, but this one does stand apart because if focuses first on being able to seek feedback in different ways and places a large emphasis on receiving it. We have always focused on how to deliver feedback, but the authors are correct when they say all the control is really in the receivers hands. Switching the focus from giving to receiving could have more wide spread impact in our organization because we all get feedback but many of us don't have a lot of opportunity to give effective feedback.Also, we like to focus our training courses on things that the participants are in control of. We can't control how the feedback is delivered to us, but we can change how we receive it.

ok this book is INCREDIBLE. I started reading it because I know that I (like most everyone in the world) could be better at receiving feedback and understanding where people are coming from. I did not expect to have an entire perspective change... this book isn't only about feedback, it's about life and relationships in general. I think every single person should read this book... it's convicting and confronting with revealing the way we respond to feedback, why we respond the ways we do, and how we develop feedback for others. It touches on the importance of clarity, curiosity, asking questions and getting to the root of things instead of assuming or reacting (because we usually cannot see the whole picture!). I think every leader, team, student, athlete, parent, spouse, and literally anyone and everyone should read this book because it's incredible, eye opening and will be so helpful to your personal growth!

Didn’t have to be 300+ pages. They could have said what they said in 200 or less and not made the last few chapters like molasses.

There's a lot of good information here, now I need to digest it and take it in. I feel I need to write a summary that I can periodically come back to review what I've learned.

Excelente, los tiempos y el estado del libro.

I read a LOT of business books because I'm a manager and work at a place where feedback is highly valued. I loved it. The author doesn't go overboard with anecdotes, and the psychology behind why we respond differently to various feedback was truly enlightening. I highly recommend this book to anyone looking how to RECEIVE feedback, and it can also be helpful for those giving feedback, so they can understand why they don't always get the response they expected.

When I started reading this book I thought - OK, so there's something I can do to get better at receiving feedback....but it's not just about MY reaction / learning. But as I read on, I realised that if I could change the way I received feedback, then if would be in a much better position to help others to learn this too. I can see the wisdom in working through yourself first, before you can work with others. I especially valued the points made on the emotional reactions to feedback that so often get in the way (but it makes no sense to pretend that these emotions do not exist). I could cite many other key points - suffice to say that this well-researched book has a great deal of useful teaching....set out in a very logical way, with useful examples and clear explanations. Very well worth reading...especially by managers or leaders ( though anyone can benefit, as the advice applies just as well to relationships).

Estou muito satisfeito com o livro. Muito profundo e esclarecedor.