The Next Conversation: Argue Less, Talk More Paperback – March 20, 2025

THE NEXT CONVERSATION ARGUE LESS TALK MOREI have something like 23 credits at Audible and the fascinating thing it's read by the Author who has a pleasant voice. It's between 6 or 7 hours and he''s not a mental health professional and my biggest takeaway is your goal should never be to win a disagreement it's connection with the other person that you seek. He talks about when your goal is to win that connection or bond gets ruptured or weakened. He talks about if someone seems angry or in a bad mood your goal is to find what the layer underneath is usually about something for instance the person might be having to navigate unknown problems and might say something but connection with no matter who your dealing with is so important. I already know that since I took a lot of psychology as an undergraduate which I have always enjoyed and I was a natural earning all A grades on papers and tests and final grades. I have had a lot of stress and I don't know what got into me but sometimes I'd get annoyed when people like over the phone dealing with people I don't know who don't listen to what I say and they make me keep repeating myself. This never happened to me before since my kids and husband and family and friends are easy to deal with. It's usually a payment that I call in and I had an unauthorized charges which I got a fraud alert that came to a couple thousand dollars which traumatized me to have had to work through that. I've always been chill and non confrontational, but that along with some hard to diagnose health problems had me acting like a person who I didn't recognize that after explaining in detail, I got frustrated and anyone would. Another takeaway is when dealing with rudeness at random my biggest takeaway is my first word should be to breath. I was so sick I couldn't keep any food down and I listened to this man who has a podcast that I might check out in the future says it's the wrong book for you if you hope to get psychological advice.. He was fortunate to grow up with parents who taught him how to communicate. Breathing slows down your breath which increases when you get annoyed like I was when I explained something and the response is like the unknown to me person responds as if they didn't listen. I had super polite and easy to raise sons who I never felt mad at them all throughout their life. I speak to people with sensitivity even my children. My husband is kind, but he was the stricter parent so maybe that's why my kids were well behaved. Now that they are out on their own they are sometimes more of a challenge, but they are well adjusted, polite people. My husband is wonderful, but he was the one that would say no sometimes, where I would say yes. Anyway I've found this a great resource since we are all hard wired to want connection to not be damaged by having to try to get others to agree with you I already knew that just makes things worse. I think most of things on this Audible listen was common sense. He says you're never going to remember everything so take one thing that you resonate with and start right away doing it. My husband and I are only different about who we vote for. I think there are blatant things that I find nutty and we both said we are never going to convince each other about politics so I don't bring it up since he has a right to his choice of politicians and I do to. It's never good to try to change peoples ideas since they just dig their heels in deeper. I don't want to win anybody else over to my way of thinking so if you remember the people you love always remember to think about keeping the connection says this trial lawyer which always breathe when triggered because you won't react you'll respond. Highly recommend this has many good things and I like it. It's a keeper!

***This book will change how you handle every difficult conversation for the rest of your lif***I'm not usually one to write reviews, but The Next Conversation earned it. Jefferson Fisher has cracked the code on something most of us dread: those conversations we avoid until we can't anymore.What makes this different from every other communication book gathering dust on your shelf? Jefferson doesn't lecture—he shows. Through perfectly chosen stories and real-world scenarios, you absorb the principles without feeling like you're in a corporate training seminar.The game-changer: His framework actually works in the moment. When I'd accepted an invitation I didn't want to, I found myself naturally applying Jefferson's "No is a complete sentence" technique. I was able to graciously and firmly eliminate an unnecessary obligation from my calendar. And, I shared it the same day with a friend who also used it!What you'll get:- Tools that feel natural and helpful- Stories that stick (the actual language he shares is pure gold)- Advice you can use immediately—no PhD in psychology requiredWarning: You'll start noticing how badly most people handle difficult conversations. You'll also become the person others come to when they need to have "that talk" with someone.Worth every penny. Buy it, read it, then buy copies for the people in your life who need better conversations.Verified Purchase ✓

Have wonderful but sensitive people in your life that you love? Maybe like me, you also try very hard to communicate well, lovingly, and respectfully. However, somehow, sometimes, I end up just putting foot in my mouth and end feeling completely misunderstood. In all honestly and transparency though, I did not exactly learn and practice the best communication skills growing up. This book has helped me. If you want simple effective guidance and insight that can change your relationships for the better, this might be the book for you too. It will teach and give you methods that with some time and some practice, change how you share your thoughts and feelings and avoid some of the complications that can and do happen. How to share with others what’s in your heart in a way that will leave you BOTH feeling heard and respected. Jefferson from personal experience and application, shares essential communication tools that show how to very clearly express your feelings, avoid accidentally offending, keep the conversation calm and respectful both ways, and really assist in building the relationships you’ve always wanted, but have struggled to build. Still reading and learning….highly recommend.

If you never follow or seen Jefferson Fisher's tiktok reels or FB reels before. You can start reading his book. I usually end up returning half of the books I purchased but this one is a keeper. It's worth while reading the entirety of the book. The tips and instructions on how to better your conversational skills is easy to understand, there are examples as well on how to apply the ideas, the tips are not repeats from the social media reels. The stories he shared and the sincerity of his intentions comes through from the contents of his book. It is worth purchasing this book as you can use its context as a reference guide.