The Art of Everyday Assertiveness: Speak Up. Say No. Set Boundaries. Take Back Control.

The book title says it all. The author reminds the reader when people-pleasing and appeasing others, to consider what’s at stake with your needs, desires, and way you pictured your life playing out. Brilliant Excerpts - The great cost of your lack of assertiveness and self-care is a life that doesn’t resemble anything you’ve ever wanted I love the analysis on Toxic Takers (TT). The people with a warped sense of entitlement. What you’ve worked for becomes a free resource they can tap into: The analysis on over-apologizing is spot on. Brilliant excerpts from the book : By over-apologizing, you are telling others that you are taking responsibility for the issue, even when that responsibility is inappropriate and you have not done any wrong. Over-apologizing creates an unnecessary sense of guilt and can undermine your own self-worth. When apologizing becomes second nature to you, not only do you remind others that you’re responsible for what goes wrong, you’re also directing that information to yourself. It’s like volunteering to be the scapegoat and even trying to get others to reinforce it as fact. The cycle continues when you start feeling worse and people blame you (inappropriately) even more. This book is essential reading for anyone who is looking to grow their self-care mindset and practice. I recommend the book.

I liked the no nonsense approach of this book. Helpful if your confidence is low or you are going through a particularly bad phase in I your life and need some ideas on how to build yourself back up. I think that everyone will recognise some aspect of behaviour that has not helped them achieve what they want from life with good ideas on how to try and get to a better place.

Brilliant book!! As a chronic people pleaser I felt like he was talking directly at me in a lot of places! He breaks down complex topics really well and is written in a very concise way so I finished it in a few days and also means I can revisit it often to remind myself of the concepts. There's also a really detailed and specific action plan at the end for how to implement the topics from the book which I will DEFINITELY be revisiting. Great, empowering book!

This was an amazing book just what I needed as I was isolating for 14 days Found it easy to read and understand Have recommended to friends

This book helped me a lot and allowed me to discover myself. Given me the knowledge and the tools to understand why I over apologise, and I never used to know why I do that, but I have myself doing a lot. So when he said it, it was often a defence mechanism, which I can personally relate to, and the best part is that I read the book when I needed it the most. Thank you

Great breakdown with examples of how to be better in everyday usage of assertiveness, feels like you have the power to say no without feeling the bad guy

Brilliant book would buy again and recommend to others with low self esteem. 😊

I was not blown away by the book but there are a lot of useful information to learn how to become more assertive. You should read this book if you think people pleasing is a good trait while suffering tremendously.

I have read other books by this author. I found the book very helpful. Easy to read and understand.

What I got in this book is standing up for myself, being clear and direct when sharing my thoughts and feelings, protecting my rights without taking away the rights of other people. And most important one is "self compassion"❤

Good, constructive book. Well formatted, interesting and helpful. Looking forward to trying out the exercises given. Great for personal development.

Patrick King’s Art of Everyday Assertiveness was recommended to me along with a second book that I will be reading soon. It is an excellent, straight-to-the-point primer that can be digested relatively quickly. It has some very important and effective strategies for recognizing where one’s boundaries are currently, how various factors in our lives have led us to where we are, and the ways in which having poor personal boundaries can negatively impact every area of our lives. After identifying where we’re at, the book uses a straightforward approach to presenting strategies and using them in our day to day lives, as well as a one-month suggested timeline for executing a variety of activities to slowly build up our assertiveness and being aware of what we are doing through cognitive behavior therapy / exposure therapy. Little by little, one can reclaim their independence and freedom from the toxic takers in our lives by simply examining where we are at, and what we need to do to get to the next step of the freedom, respect, and assertiveness we all deserve from others. It sounds crazy, but I am seeing how my own behaviors have wrecked relationships of mine and in turn wrecked me, and I am not going to live like it any more thanks to regular therapy and King’s great book. Easy to read – can kill it in a couple of sittings, but I found myself dipping in and revisiting some parts quite often afterward. The book comes with an easy-to-use outline topic summary at the end.

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