--- product_id: 5275667 title: "She's Not the Man I Married: My Life with a Transgender Husband" price: "1360325₫" currency: VND in_stock: true reviews_count: 13 url: https://www.desertcart.vn/products/5275667-shes-not-the-man-i-married-my-life-with-transgender store_origin: VN region: Vietnam --- # She's Not the Man I Married: My Life with a Transgender Husband **Price:** 1360325₫ **Availability:** ✅ In Stock ## Quick Answers - **What is this?** She's Not the Man I Married: My Life with a Transgender Husband - **How much does it cost?** 1360325₫ with free shipping - **Is it available?** Yes, in stock and ready to ship - **Where can I buy it?** [www.desertcart.vn](https://www.desertcart.vn/products/5275667-shes-not-the-man-i-married-my-life-with-transgender) ## Best For - Customers looking for quality international products ## Why This Product - Free international shipping included - Worldwide delivery with tracking - 15-day hassle-free returns ## Description desertcart.com: She's Not the Man I Married: My Life with a Transgender Husband: 9781580051934: Boyd, Helen: Books Review: An impressive, touching memoir - "She's Not The Man I Married" is, at once, a wrenchingly honest memoir of the author's own sometimes painful relationship with her gender (and with the cultural expectations and standards that those who grow up female are subjected to), and a perceptive, witty, and always-interesting commentary, from a feminist perspective, on many of the seemingly insurmountable complexities that lie at the intersection of gender, transgender, and relationship issues. Ms. Boyd makes no attempt to wrap things up neatly with pat solutions or easy answers -- because there are none -- and takes an unflinching look at the difficulties that a gender transition presents, not only for transpeople themselves, but, just as importantly, for those who love them. This is a worthy follow-up to "My Husband Betty," and, I think, is equally destined to be a classic in its field. Review: Really insightful read. - I thought the book was a great look inside the mind of someone who is married to a person who is transgender and considering transition. I thought it was really interesting the whole way through, and like most of it. I can't fault her for being honest, but parts of the book seem pretty defensive to me, and while she enjoys being married to someone who's trans, it's almost like she feels guilty for doing so. I also think it would have been nice to hear more about their feelings, and a little less of putting words in the mouths of "most wives". Other than that, I really enjoyed the read, and thought it was really insightful. BTW, if you are confused, she describes anyone who presents as female on a part time basis only as a "crossdresser", regards of their reasons for doing so or their gender status. I was a little confused by this at first. ## Technical Specifications | Specification | Value | |---------------|-------| | Best Sellers Rank | #1,397,796 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #1,450 in General Gender Studies #3,470 in Marriage #21,032 in Memoirs (Books) | | Customer Reviews | 4.4 4.4 out of 5 stars (155) | | Dimensions | 5.5 x 0.8 x 8.5 inches | | Edition | 1st | | ISBN-10 | 1580051936 | | ISBN-13 | 978-1580051934 | | Item Weight | 13.8 ounces | | Language | English | | Print length | 280 pages | | Publication date | February 15, 2007 | | Publisher | Seal Press | ## Images ![She's Not the Man I Married: My Life with a Transgender Husband - Image 1](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61CL8ApplJL.jpg) ## Customer Reviews ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ An impressive, touching memoir *by D***N on May 26, 2007* "She's Not The Man I Married" is, at once, a wrenchingly honest memoir of the author's own sometimes painful relationship with her gender (and with the cultural expectations and standards that those who grow up female are subjected to), and a perceptive, witty, and always-interesting commentary, from a feminist perspective, on many of the seemingly insurmountable complexities that lie at the intersection of gender, transgender, and relationship issues. Ms. Boyd makes no attempt to wrap things up neatly with pat solutions or easy answers -- because there are none -- and takes an unflinching look at the difficulties that a gender transition presents, not only for transpeople themselves, but, just as importantly, for those who love them. This is a worthy follow-up to "My Husband Betty," and, I think, is equally destined to be a classic in its field. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Really insightful read. *by D***N on March 29, 2016* I thought the book was a great look inside the mind of someone who is married to a person who is transgender and considering transition. I thought it was really interesting the whole way through, and like most of it. I can't fault her for being honest, but parts of the book seem pretty defensive to me, and while she enjoys being married to someone who's trans, it's almost like she feels guilty for doing so. I also think it would have been nice to hear more about their feelings, and a little less of putting words in the mouths of "most wives". Other than that, I really enjoyed the read, and thought it was really insightful. BTW, if you are confused, she describes anyone who presents as female on a part time basis only as a "crossdresser", regards of their reasons for doing so or their gender status. I was a little confused by this at first. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐ Helpful, I have questions. . . *by C***T on June 5, 2013* This helped me to understand better my own transgender husband. However, I felt Helen spent a lot of time talking about her personal feminist issues, rather than sticking to the story about dealing with Betty. Those areas where Helen did talk about her fears and concerns I did find helpful - I no longer feel alone. I did feel though that as a couple they are both either ignoring or denying Helen's feelings about Betty's trans sexuality. How does Helen feel about Betty ultimately rejecting her physically, emotionally and sexually? How does Helen feel about Betty getting hormone injections, or SRS? Does Betty leave Helen at home evenings while she goes out with her trans friends? Does Betty refuse to let Helen know any of her trans friends? Do Helen and Betty go places or do things together where both would be dressed as women? How does each feel about that? Does Betty talk endlessly about trans friends, hormone therapy and SRS (ad nauseum)? Are there support groups for straight women married to trans MTFs in SF where a person like myself can get help? 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