--- product_id: 3889359 title: "The Hesitant Mistress: A Guide to Claiming Your Feminine Power" price: "716628₫" currency: VND in_stock: true reviews_count: 13 url: https://www.desertcart.vn/products/3889359-the-hesitant-mistress-a-guide-to-claiming-your-feminine-power store_origin: VN region: Vietnam --- # The Hesitant Mistress: A Guide to Claiming Your Feminine Power **Price:** 716628₫ **Availability:** ✅ In Stock ## Quick Answers - **What is this?** The Hesitant Mistress: A Guide to Claiming Your Feminine Power - **How much does it cost?** 716628₫ with free shipping - **Is it available?** Yes, in stock and ready to ship - **Where can I buy it?** [www.desertcart.vn](https://www.desertcart.vn/products/3889359-the-hesitant-mistress-a-guide-to-claiming-your-feminine-power) ## Best For - Customers looking for quality international products ## Why This Product - Free international shipping included - Worldwide delivery with tracking - 15-day hassle-free returns ## Description The submissive man in a vanilla relationship faces a daunting challenge. How can he convince his demure girlfriend to take charge without turning her off? How can he show her that female domination is not a sick stereotype, but a healthy and romantic way to enhance her life? This book is the answer to his prayers. His girlfriend's hesitation is perfectly understandable. Since female dominants are so often depicted as arrogant sadists intent on hurting and humiliating men, it's not surprising that any woman would feel reluctant to adopt this role in her relationship. After all, who would treat her beloved partner as if she hated him? But she has no need to worry. The real female dominant is not a cruel psychopath. Her relationship involves mutual trust, cooperation, and communication. She can be nurturing and reasonable. She can share her feelings and needs. She can be herself, more bravely than ever - and her partner will love her for it. In The Hesitant Mistress, author and dominant Dvanna Hightower gently introduces the novice mistress to a new world of life-enhancing possibilities. The male submissive will try to give his lady everything she desires; all she needs to do is recognize the confidence she already has inside her. Part self-help book, part kinky instruction manual, The Hesitant Mistress is an indispensable introduction to female-led relationships. Any woman who reads it will never be the same. ----- CONTENTS ----- I. Introduction: A Warning for the Man in Her Life; Some Reassurances for the Hesitant Mistress; Your Journey; The Female Dominant; The Female-Led Relationship; Is This Abuse?; The Male Submissive; How It Works - A Brief Demonstration II. Gaining Confidence: Being Yourself; You are Attractive; Stop Apologizing; Say What You Mean; Don't Justify; Give Up Validation; Be Aware of Your Space; Wear Something Sexy; Know You Can Handle It; Become Self-Reliant; Declare A Preference; Lead, Don't Follow; Vocalize Your Instincts III. Training Him: You Were Made for This; Set Boundaries; Be Consistent; Set Expectations; Being Bossy; Watch Your Language; Reward and Punish; Answers and Objections; It's Your Decision IV. Scening: Of Scenes and Bedrooms; Safewords; Stop and Think About It; Take Your Time; Caring Too Much; Fetishes; Games to Start Out With; Putting It All Into Practice; New Beginnings; A View From the Bottom - A Submissive's Addendum ----- A Warning for the Man in Her Life ----- This book will teach your partner how to be more dominant. That means she will learn how to actually be more dominant, not just how to act like a dominatrix long enough for you to get your jollies off in the bedroom. Your partner will learn how to say no to you. She will learn how to train you. She will learn how to punish you and hold you accountable for your actions. She will learn that she can demand whatever she wants from you, despite whatever you might want from her. So beware, my unsuspecting male friend... if you bought this book for her, you might get more than you asked for. You may want to quietly set it aside and buy her a set of fuzzy handcuffs instead. You have been warned. Review: It’s the Male’s Idea for his Lover to Be A Dominatrix - “Being given this book means that your partner loves you enough to want to involve you in one of his deepest, most personal fantasies”. “You are one lucky lady.” “The instant he confided his secret desires to you, he offered you the key to his soul. It’s an act of romance touching beyond words.” Even the cover photo of this guide book seems to enforce the idea that the woman is really hesitant about suddenly becoming a mistress-dominatrix. It’s a brilliant cover choice. It isn’t easy to create a photo that screams hesitation or uncertainty. The woman in the cover photo seems to convey the feelings she must be experiencing after suddenly finding herself in a completely unexpected new role. All the questions and doubts that she will have to answer in the text of the guidebook seem present. She has a riding crop hanging down loosely from her right hand. Does she have to use it or will slapping with just her hand get the desired result? One of her five or six inch Stiletto high heels definitely seems uncomfortable and may soon be removed from her foot. She is probably very concerned about whether her thigh-high black stockings will make her thighs look fat? Are the suspender garters hanging down from her black, sexy girdle or corset sexy enough to turn on her mate? Does she look like a dominatrix whose orders must be followed to the letter? Will her costume really allow her to command her now sub servant lover to follow her orders even if they are totally for her sexual or non-sexual enjoyment and not his? All the questions posed by the cover photo are discussed in detail inside the book covers. That’s one of the things that makes this guide book so much fun to explore, just like the lovers in the book. It’s truly a well written guide book to adventure. It offers endless possibilities for deeper understanding and happiness for lovers. It’s a whole new beginning and definitely a page-turner. Review: Truly Empowering - "This book will teach your partner how to be more dominant. That means she will learn how to actually be more dominant, not just how to act like a dominatrix long enough for you to get your jollies off in the bedroom." ^^She's telling the truth. This is not a book about how to satisfy your kinky husband's "needs". Instead, it is probably one of the best self-help books for female confidence that I have read. I feel like all women should read it. Ms Hightower points out all of the ways that our voices have been culturally silenced. She acknowledges with warmth and understanding that terrible voice in the back of our heads that tells us that we are being "a bitch" just for asking for something we want. She talks about how to feel "worthy" of your submissive's attentions. She talks about how you can value yourself as a person without worrying constantly about appearing "nice". She talks about how to feel beautiful. She tells us to stop apologizing for wanting things. -"Have you ever apologized for "being a bother" when you make a request?....That is not right. That is not healthy.... A normal member of society should be allowed to have needs." -"You are valuable enough to deserve this. You matter. You don't have to shrink yourself into nothing for the sake of being "nice." She also gives real life examples of what an FLR can look like - not in the bedroom, which might be the part that men think about the most, but outside of it, where the rest of life is. Him bringing you a cup of coffee, telling you his plans for the day. Doing what YOU want him to do. And she tells you how to get that without feeling mean. She also goes into the bedroom stuff, but not into detail. Most of the book is about feeling worthy, ACTING worthy, and how to get him doing what YOU want him to do - not just how to satisfy HIS "needs". A great book for a woman who doesn't really see the attraction to being the dominant partner, or as she describes it, being a woman instead of a mouse. A great book for a woman who wants to feel worthy of her submissive's adoration but is having trouble overcoming decades of cultural conditioning. I wish it was twice as long. And men - read her warning before you buy! ## Technical Specifications | Specification | Value | |---------------|-------| | Best Sellers Rank | #631,778 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #1,516 in Sex & Sexuality | | Customer Reviews | 4.2 out of 5 stars 341 Reviews | ## Images ![The Hesitant Mistress: A Guide to Claiming Your Feminine Power - Image 1](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51dvOehep3L.jpg) ## Customer Reviews ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ It’s the Male’s Idea for his Lover to Be A Dominatrix *by J***D on August 8, 2020* “Being given this book means that your partner loves you enough to want to involve you in one of his deepest, most personal fantasies”. “You are one lucky lady.” “The instant he confided his secret desires to you, he offered you the key to his soul. It’s an act of romance touching beyond words.” Even the cover photo of this guide book seems to enforce the idea that the woman is really hesitant about suddenly becoming a mistress-dominatrix. It’s a brilliant cover choice. It isn’t easy to create a photo that screams hesitation or uncertainty. The woman in the cover photo seems to convey the feelings she must be experiencing after suddenly finding herself in a completely unexpected new role. All the questions and doubts that she will have to answer in the text of the guidebook seem present. She has a riding crop hanging down loosely from her right hand. Does she have to use it or will slapping with just her hand get the desired result? One of her five or six inch Stiletto high heels definitely seems uncomfortable and may soon be removed from her foot. She is probably very concerned about whether her thigh-high black stockings will make her thighs look fat? Are the suspender garters hanging down from her black, sexy girdle or corset sexy enough to turn on her mate? Does she look like a dominatrix whose orders must be followed to the letter? Will her costume really allow her to command her now sub servant lover to follow her orders even if they are totally for her sexual or non-sexual enjoyment and not his? All the questions posed by the cover photo are discussed in detail inside the book covers. That’s one of the things that makes this guide book so much fun to explore, just like the lovers in the book. It’s truly a well written guide book to adventure. It offers endless possibilities for deeper understanding and happiness for lovers. It’s a whole new beginning and definitely a page-turner. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Truly Empowering *by C***L on November 26, 2015* "This book will teach your partner how to be more dominant. That means she will learn how to actually be more dominant, not just how to act like a dominatrix long enough for you to get your jollies off in the bedroom." ^^She's telling the truth. This is not a book about how to satisfy your kinky husband's "needs". Instead, it is probably one of the best self-help books for female confidence that I have read. I feel like all women should read it. Ms Hightower points out all of the ways that our voices have been culturally silenced. She acknowledges with warmth and understanding that terrible voice in the back of our heads that tells us that we are being "a bitch" just for asking for something we want. She talks about how to feel "worthy" of your submissive's attentions. She talks about how you can value yourself as a person without worrying constantly about appearing "nice". She talks about how to feel beautiful. She tells us to stop apologizing for wanting things. -"Have you ever apologized for "being a bother" when you make a request?....That is not right. That is not healthy.... A normal member of society should be allowed to have needs." -"You are valuable enough to deserve this. You matter. You don't have to shrink yourself into nothing for the sake of being "nice." She also gives real life examples of what an FLR can look like - not in the bedroom, which might be the part that men think about the most, but outside of it, where the rest of life is. Him bringing you a cup of coffee, telling you his plans for the day. Doing what YOU want him to do. And she tells you how to get that without feeling mean. She also goes into the bedroom stuff, but not into detail. Most of the book is about feeling worthy, ACTING worthy, and how to get him doing what YOU want him to do - not just how to satisfy HIS "needs". A great book for a woman who doesn't really see the attraction to being the dominant partner, or as she describes it, being a woman instead of a mouse. A great book for a woman who wants to feel worthy of her submissive's adoration but is having trouble overcoming decades of cultural conditioning. I wish it was twice as long. And men - read her warning before you buy! ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐ Great for the beginner *by S***S on July 30, 2023* This is one of those books that let my wife know how to step up in our relationship. We use this solely for the bedroom and we have grown in the D/s exponentially. She was very hesitant to step into the D role whole heartedly. After reading this she was able to set aside her trepidations. It has also helped her in every day life as well ## Frequently Bought Together - The Hesitant Mistress: A Guide to Claiming Your Feminine Power - Femdom for Nice Girls: A Self-Guided Manual for the Caring Mistress - The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl's Guide to Female Dominance --- ## Why Shop on Desertcart? - 🛒 **Trusted by 1.3+ Million Shoppers** — Serving international shoppers since 2016 - 🌍 **Shop Globally** — Access 737+ million products across 21 categories - 💰 **No Hidden Fees** — All customs, duties, and taxes included in the price - 🔄 **15-Day Free Returns** — Hassle-free returns (30 days for PRO members) - 🔒 **Secure Payments** — Trusted payment options with buyer protection - ⭐ **TrustPilot Rated 4.5/5** — Based on 8,000+ happy customer reviews **Shop now:** [https://www.desertcart.vn/products/3889359-the-hesitant-mistress-a-guide-to-claiming-your-feminine-power](https://www.desertcart.vn/products/3889359-the-hesitant-mistress-a-guide-to-claiming-your-feminine-power) --- *Product available on Desertcart Vietnam* *Store origin: VN* *Last updated: 2026-05-19*