The 5 Love Languages Military Edition: The Secret to Love That Lasts

I absolutely love this book. Buy it for everyone I know that gets married

Great book, even if you are retired and trying to make the transition from active duty. This will help you understand each other and yourself. It helps you understand why you do what you do, say what you say, and feel what you feel. It's definitely a must for any military couple.

Good read. Good examples. Easy to follow.

Written for Christians but the truths in this book are applicable to any Soldier of any faith or creed or even those espousing no faith or creed. We each have a "love language", knowing yours and your partners is critical to a growing relationship! Buy it, read it, try it, you won't be sorry. I work with new Soldiers and Officers, it's astounding to me how few have a clue about their partner.

I’ve only gotten through the first small chapters; haven’t even gotten to the individual chapters on each love language. I absolutely love this book already! My S.O. and I used to clash often and it got so tiresome arguing all the time. Come to realize, we have different love languages and like the book says, it’s like talking English and Chinese. No wonder! This books gives you insight on the 5 love languages and how you can interpret your own and your spouse’s, and how to accommodate theirs. My S.O. and I are reading this together while he’s deployed :)

I heard the author was a big hit with Focus on the Family, and therefore assumed this book would focus heavily on a Christian perspective. Which, I suppose it did to a point, but I really didn’t like the entire introduction which was totally stripped of Christian context and seemed like a lot of self-promotion on Chapman's theories and how he saved so many marriages through it. I understand he’s trying to cater to all relationships, even those that aren’t faith-based, but when a Christian is trying to give relationship advice and he fails to mention Christ as the perfect model of true and lasting love, I get irritated. He also failed to mention the striking contrast between couples that prayed together, and those who didn’t. (Guess which ones stayed together?) By turning the attention to himself, he missed a lot of opportunities to get to the heart of the issue.I was also greatly disturbed by the constant (and unquestioned) use of the term, “fallen out of love.” He did use the phrase “emotional excuse” to describe those who left their spouses and/or cheated on them, but I would have used harsher terms. How about, “oath breakers” or “disobedient to the commandment to love?” Because yes, Biblically, love is a commandment. God’s Word tells us to love one another; it’s not a suggestion. (John 15:12; Matthew 5:43-48; Ephesians 5:25) It’s not a temporary emotion you fall in and out of depending on your level of emotional happiness and warm-fuzziness, but it’s a verb. It’s a daily growing, affirming action that if you married, you promised to do until death do you part. I’m really disappointed that he didn’t address that at all. Not even in a separate section for believers. It was all lumped in with lingo such as, “love is a choice” and “that first-time falling in love feeling is just an obsession.” I don’t believe in redefining love. The Bible says what love is and then tells you in no uncertain terms to do it!What I did like about the book was that it was totally eye-opening; not just in terms of looking to the future and how to be a loving wife, but in my current state of relationships with those I love best in my role as a sister, daughter, friend, and so on. It’s so obvious to me what certain family members would have as their primary love language, and trying to fulfill their needs for that love is a challenge I’m going to enjoy.I also really liked the extra sections for how to meet these needs for spouses during deployments. There are some fantastic suggestions that have already made our first deployment as intended spouses a little easier.All in all, I recommend this book to those who are already strong in their faith and convictions. For new Christians, or those who aren't practicing believers, I think it could cause more harm than good. Love should be based on Christ. It's the only way to have a true, and lasting relationship. These methods are helpful, but not the ultimate answer.

First off let me start by saying I don’t read many books. I picked up this book and couldn’t put it down. It is written very well and put I. Terms you can understand. It also has stories that you can relate to that further explain the thought process of the book. I bought the book originally for my wife so she could read it during her deployment. She had the same reaction to it I did. Overall great read, great book, and I would recommend any couple to read it, you won’t know what your missing until you do.

My daughter is in the military. She recently got married to a person that is in the military as well. I purchased this for them to help them communicate.Great book. Easy to ready. Value for money. Great. Highly encourage it for any military couples.