Gaslighting: Recognize Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People -- and Break Free Paperback – October 2, 2018

I got this book because it was recommended to me after a bad breakup and boy did this book open my eyes to stuff I was so oblivious and unaware of. Def would recommend this not just for the narcissist partner but anybody that can gaslight you, family, friends, coworkers, etc... such a good read!

Once you read this book, you will realize that Gaslighters are pretty much everywhere. They seem to share qualities with narcissists and possibly sociopaths. The author is very thorough and also gives insight into the causes as well as therapies/strategies that can be helpful, for the victims and for the Gaslighters themselves( provided they have the capacity to look at themselves). For me, the takeaway is “get the hell away as fast as possible. “ But if you can’t, this book will give you some helpful tips

My therapist recommended this book. I never thought I would want nor need it. I stumbled upon the topic of gaslighting. I’m obviously going through a separation. My employer has fantastic counseling benefits. I told my boss who immediately connected me with a therapy provider. From there, I met with a coach and a therapist. Twice with the therapist. The therapist listened to the situation and recommended this book. Eye opening. If you are in this situation and don’t want to read the book, I understand. The advice for me is simple and I accept it. Get away from a gaslighter. It’s that simple. The other 200+ pages go into more detail, which was great. I read a chapter and reflected. It took me a while to read the book. I’m real glad I did. Now that I recognize what was happening, I see the person for who the person was. I’m obviously not going to bash the person. I’m going to thank the coach, therapist, and author. Thank you!

A great catalogue for people to draw from and for society to start dealing with this ogre that, only a few short years ago, had no name. However, some of the advice was too prescriptive or lack necessary expansion and leaned toward giving readers the justifications for discrimination against people who are not gaslighters. In one case, the author’s advice promotes a certain ubiquitous form of gaslighting, the very thing the book intends to prevent.

Save yourself a lot of heartache and read this book. I am a licensed professional counselor of 25 years. The DSM is great for diagnosing but this book spells it out clearly. Arm yourself with this information and save yourself worlds of heartache pain and suffering in unfavorable relationships. I highly recommend this book.

For many years I thought something was wrong with me but somehow I just knew I wasn't crazy. But the gas lighter in my family had me believing it for many years. Until one day as I was working on progress with my therapist, and she said to me that she had been receiving letters on behalf of me by intercepting them. They were letters from my "gaslighter" who tried extensively to convince my therapist of all the things that were wrong and so on. Now at this time there was no name for these types of people, however she knew something was not right. She said that there is no need to read them as they are mute anyway. By the sessions I have been having with her she said I should not only NOT be here and that there is absolutely nothing wrong with me but I will give you the tools to deal with these people and how to carry on in life. Best advise I ever got. Then many years later the name Gas Lighter came up and I saw the book. This book gave me many more tools and so much more to continue down the road to sanity. Thank you. I have bought many copies and given them to many friends in the same situation. So glad there is name for them and a way to breath again knowing that I am free.

This book should be required reading for new therapist & managers... It really straight forward and gives great examples...I did not know much about gaslight but this book provides clear and concise info of what to look for in various parts of our lives..The recommendation for healing and therapy is important for anyone transitioning out this toxic relationship.

This book, for me, is a spotlight in the dark. Helped me with another layer of recovery. Seeing the 'technique' helps to identify it for what it is.