--- product_id: 105665860 title: "The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed" brand: "jessica lahey" price: "401061₫" currency: VND in_stock: true reviews_count: 11 url: https://www.desertcart.vn/products/105665860-the-gift-of-failure-how-the-best-parents-learn-to store_origin: VN region: Vietnam --- # The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed **Brand:** jessica lahey **Price:** 401061₫ **Availability:** ✅ In Stock ## Quick Answers - **What is this?** The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed by jessica lahey - **How much does it cost?** 401061₫ with free shipping - **Is it available?** Yes, in stock and ready to ship - **Where can I buy it?** [www.desertcart.vn](https://www.desertcart.vn/products/105665860-the-gift-of-failure-how-the-best-parents-learn-to) ## Best For - jessica lahey enthusiasts ## Why This Product - Trusted jessica lahey brand quality - Free international shipping included - Worldwide delivery with tracking - 15-day hassle-free returns ## Description Full description not available ## Images ![The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed - Image 1](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/71DL4rnBMOL.jpg) ## Customer Reviews ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Practical and eye-opening guide for parents *by B***E on Reviewed in the United States on September 29, 2015* This book had a profound effect on my thinking about how to be a parent. I don't think of myself as the type who hovers, but I'm starting to understand that I hover more than I realize. It's not that the author is advocating for hands-off parenting. Instead, she points out a lot of the ways in which parents take the reins and deny their kids all sense of control, and how detrimental that can be. We want our kids to grow up to be responsible and capable adults, but how can they do that when we take away their sense of autonomy? This book made me realize it's more important for me to teach my kids life skills like how to manage their time than it is for me to be managing every detail. My doing so comes from good intentions and a desire to see them succeed, but at the same time it conveys subtle messages to them I don't want conveyed.I read a lot of psychology and social science books because the research just plain fascinates me. While this book offers a lot of anecdotes, it's also infused with an excellent grasp of research. Lahey's background in education shines through, and her suggestions are grounded in the same evidence-based research that I've read. If kids seem different today, it's because they are, and it's not just technology that's driving this change, it's the way parents treat their children and how they view them. We want them to be successful, but in our test-driven, high achieving culture, we are sometimes guilty of emphasizing the wrong things. After reading a great deal about helpless college students, children suffering from stress-related ills, and the mental health problems plaguing universities, this book helped me form an idea as to why this may be: rather than teaching our children to work for the things they want, we're setting them on a prescribed path and sending them the message that they're only okay as long as they follow that prescribed path. Reading this book makes the mystifying question of why children don't want to take risks quite clear: because we've taught them that there's nothing worse than failure.Yet this book doesn't just discuss research, it also offers a lot of practical solutions for parents. Fair warning, though: not all of these suggestions are easy to swallow. This is where some of the pain came in for me, because I saw myself reflected in some of the behaviors Lahey suggests parents need to break. Giving her suggestions a try isn't going to be easy from a parenting standpoint, and it will require me to retrain myself as well.I also think there's a lot of value in how this book offers some very good insight into the educational system, which I think is a big benefit to parents who don't come from a teaching background. Lahey proposes that parents and teachers work as partners, and she offers suggestions for how parents can open up dialog with their kids' teachers. Considering how adversarial our current culture and politics paint the relationship between educators and parents, there is a great deal of value in this aspect of the book. It doesn't serve anyone for parents and teachers to be at one another's throats, not when both sides want the same thing. This book offers constructive ways parents can form that partnership with teachers, so that everyone can work together toward the same goal.I highly recommend this book to both parents and educators. ### ⭐ Not a parenting book *by J***T on Reviewed in the United States on August 13, 2019* This book was written by a journalist that knows how to cull interesting bits of research. It is not a book written by a person with expertise in child development. I found some of it to be contradictory and written for someone who doesn't have critical thinking skills. It sounds good but when you put all the pieces together, they don't fit. If you'd like to read something that provides interesting cocktail party conversation then buy it. If you're looking for a helpful book on raising children, then don't waste your time. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Perfect read for fresh start to school year *by B***R on Reviewed in the United States on September 14, 2018* This is one of the few parenting books I have read to the very end. (I have started MANY over 14 years.) All parents will find support and expert advice here for how to embrace mistakes as learning opportunities that can help children become better at school and at life. It will help you put your child’s school performance in perspective; think about the nature of the relationship you want to have with your child and her teachers; and nurture autonomy and independence in your child. It is the perfect read at the start of a new school year—for all grades, but especially middle school and high school. Love it. 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